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I can’t stand it any longer!!

Posted by deb on July 2, 2011
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On the very wise advice of my mentor, I am not going to worry too much about saying anything profound…I’m just going to say what’s on my mind. So, here goes. I’m a closet English teacher.

I am on quite a few lists…I get about 100 emails most days. There are lots of promotions, ezines, articles and other communications; some very simple…just text embedded in the email; some very professional looking…beautifully laid out, lots of colour, fancy graphics and fonts. So, what is driving me nuts, you ask. I hate to see the english language used improperly. In fact, it really puts me off. Rightly or wrongly, it affects how I view the sender. All of a sudden, the communication does not appear as professional. The sender loses credibility. I know I must sound like a terrible snob, and that’s not it at all. I just have an overwhelming urge to fix it before anyone else sees it:-). I feel badly for the sender.

Sometimes it is a typo, pure and simple. In a casual communication, I don’t think this is a big deal. Spell check programs probably weed most of these out, anyway. The problems occur when the wrong word is used, but it’s still a word so it isn’t flagged. The other common mistakes are changing tense or going from singular to plural form in the middle of a sentence.

Over the next while, I’m going to try to address some of the most common mistakes I see. These are not in any kind of order, just the ones that are top of mind for me on a given day. I will try to make the distinctions practical, rather than theoretical. Who cares if it’s a noun, verb or preposition:-)

Let’s take the word “there” or “their” or “they’re”. “They’re” is a contraction for “they are”. “Their” indicates possession (their shoes). “There” either indicates a place (over there) or the existence of some entity (there is, there are). It isn’t that it’s difficult. It just really takes diligent proofreading, checking that the context is right for the spelling used. It is so very important when it comes to that critical first impression.

OK, I guess that’s enough ranting for one day. Stay tuned…I’ll be back with more:-).

Love and Light, Namaste…Debbie

Not moving very fast, but learning and having fun.

Posted by deb on February 12, 2011
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I have spent the past week looking back over the time since I began to have medical problems.  It took a long time to get a diagnosis and prognosis.  During all those months of being poked, prodded and scanned, I fought like crazy denying there was anything wrong.  My last day at work was July 3, 2010.  I was officially turned over to long-term disability permanently on November 3, 2010.

I was bound and determined that this was the universe letting me know I needed to go in a different direction.  My expectation (from myself) was that I would seamlessly discover my raison d’etre, put together a website/online presence I could run from home.  My hope, naïvely, was to change the world – help women, in particular, to find their voices and strengths to heal their communities, teach each other how to be healthy.

It hasn’t been that easy.  I am dealing with depression – over the loss of my identity as a physiotherapist, my ability to do many of the things I used to do.  I am also living with some serious pain as well as movement disorders – frustrating and embarrassing.  I am still very sure that all this has a higher purpose – it just isn’t an instant transition:-)

I am doing better.  I don’t cry as much.  I have started a course in website design.  My son thinks it’s a lot easier than I do, but I’m working my way through it, finding it interesting.  I am applying for bursaries for other courses I’d like to do but can’t find the dollars to do.  I know I’ll be able to do the ones that are important for me.  I am starting to relax a bit, let myself rest when I need to.  I know how very fortunate I am to have the long-term disability to support me through this time of change.

In addition to the course in web design, I am investigating all kinds of alternative healing.  I know there is so much out there that we have yet to comprehend.  I feel I can investigate some of these strange sounding therapies with a bit of a medical knowledge base as well as an open heart and mind.

I will try to do a better job of keeping you posted.  I am so grateful for all the interest on Twitter.  I so appreciate that others find value in the thoughts I bring forward.  I am very blessed for all my friends – in person and over the internet.

Much love to all,  namaste…Debbie

Bump in the Road…and a great story:-)

Posted by deb on September 24, 2010
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I know I haven’t posted in a while.  I have been struggling with significant physical and mental health issues over the past weeks.  I’ve managed the odd tweet or sharing on Facebook, but that’s about it.  I will be sending  letters out shortly to all the fantastic coaches who asked to join the directory, as well as those of you who have signed up for updates.  I have decided I need to take a sabbatical “just for me” for the next while.  I need to concentrate on getting well again before I branch out to working on the business, much as I love it.  There just aren’t enough hours in the day to do both right now.  This will probably push the launch into the new year. I really hope you will be patient with me, keep sending in those applications to the directory, or just get yourself on my mailing list.  I know The Women’s Coach House will be even better when it takes off in 2011.

Now for the great story…it’s from the White Dove Books newsletter….made me smile (and that’s saying something these days:-)


Who will You be Tomorrow?
by Steve Goodier
One man sat at a stop light. The woman in front of him was going through papers on the seat of her car, and when the light changed to green she didn’t go. A green light is not a suggestion, you know, it is more of a commandment. But she didn’t notice.
When the light turned red again, she still had not moved. The man in the car behind her now started screaming epithets and beating on his steering wheel.
A policeman tapped on his windshield. “You can’t arrest me for hollering in my car,” the man said. The cop asked for his license and registration, returned to his car, talked on the radio for a while, and finally handed the papers back. The driver protested, “I knew you couldn’t cite me for yelling in my own car!”
The officer replied, “I didn’t want to cite you for shouting in your car. But I was directly behind you at the light. I saw you screaming and beating your steering wheel, and I said to myself, ‘That man is out of control. He’s going to hurt someone!’ Then I noticed the cross hanging from your rear view mirror, the bright yellow ‘Love Is a Choice’ license tag, the ‘Give Peace a Chance’ and ‘Prayer Changes Things’ bumper stickers, and I was sure you must have stolen the car.”
His behaviour did not reflect his bumper stickers. But let’s not be too critical. Are we always the people we want to be?
We make changes by stretching. Personal transformation can happen when the person we presently are does not yet resemble the person we hope to be. Better to set high ideals and occasionally fall short than to settle for mediocrity and succeed.
The important question is not, “Who are you today?” It is better to ask, “Who will you be tomorrow?”
Remember: if nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.
Steve Goodier’s books & Newsletter: http://LifeSupportSystem.com